What are the differences between Soul Mates and Beloveds?

Soul Mates

Soul Mates are souls that have been created within a soul family, so there is a family-type feeling of coming together. When you meet one another there is recognition, a familiarity that brings with it a wondrous joy and feeling of ‘belonging.’ Soul Mates are in each other’s lives to offer support, love, and richness. There is a timeless feeling when together that is often acknowledged through the words, “feels like I have known you forever.”

All Soul Mate relationships are for the purpose of spiritual growth, and the deepening and expanding of all spiritual attributes. Soul Mates teach each other how to love themselves and then how to love each other, thereby creating the most ideal situation for a conscious family.

Not all Soul Mate reunions are sexual; there can be a genuine experience of having a purely platonic relationship where one actually places the needs and wants of their Soul Mate before their own. They can literally serve one another for years as they learn to embody unconditional love.

Soul Mates prepare us for union with our Beloved, either in this lifetime or the next.

Hallmarks of a Soul Mate

A warm and comfortable feeling when together. A slow start with less intensity and conflict. Feelings of support, friendship, family, and familiarity. A strong attraction, you may adore and love the way they look, enjoying their entire being. But you will always be two, keeping your separate identities very much intact. No desire to merge; happy and content to enjoy individuality and two-ness.


Now, Beloveds are a whole other type of relationship.

First, let’s take a closer look at the word Beloved. Watch this: Be ‘love’ d. Yes, that’s right, the Beloved will do everything and anything to push and pull you around your so-called neat, safe, and organized life, until you simply become LOVE. This is no walk in the park ladies and gentleman, this is The Full Monty. Only those prepared to ‘bare all’ will come out on top! But, don’t be scared – the payoff is worth every bit of it.

Beloveds are two halves of the same soul brought together for the purpose of making an obvious difference in the world. For those meant to join with their Beloved, the incessant throbbing of desire and longing for the other is never far beneath the subconscious. They constantly crave a deeper, more meaningful love and will settle at nothing to find it.

Beloved love is always steadfast and enduring. They are unable to not love one another; their love is eternal and continues way beyond their human experiences. They unite when there is important spiritual work or collaboration to be done, and there is a readiness and willingness to understand the full breadth of human connection. Both will carry out a mission together for the benefit of mankind.

When Beloveds come together, similar to Soul Mates, they act as two mirrors. But unlike Soul Mates, Beloveds reflect back each other's "shadow self” for the ultimate goal of perfect polarity integration, or ultimate unity. This can be a huge task for human beings, as we have learned so many ways of staying safe and protecting ourselves from being hurt. But this is the gift of the Beloved.

The Beloved frees you from the controlling powers of the mind and sends you heart first into the ecstatic joys of the liberated heart, once you have faced and gone through a few select initiations (more on that to follow!). Those who live lives of emotional detachment often do so when they are unable or unwilling to face their Beloved. It can be an overwhelming, life-altering experience to come face-to-face with the other half of your soul. Many people flee in emotional terror and allow emotional baggage to destroy the process. But when they accept this beautiful opportunity, it can be the most intensely transformative and powerful experience a person can have.

Whatever the case, there is no force on Earth that can keep Beloveds apart – but emotional soul injuries can injure or even delay a reunion lifetime after lifetime.

Hallmarks of a Beloved

It is usually intense, challenging, light and dark, polar opposites of each other, with near Hollywood style showdowns happening within a highly attracting energetic field that you cannot fight against or deny. Every type of duality (pairs of opposites) will be played out, until there is nothing left but love, and an incredible desire to merge and become one. The idea of being two is completely repelling. Beloveds yearn to merge into one. It is their natural state.

Some people say that a Soul Mate is the starter, while the Beloved is the main course. I say they both taste good to me!

Anaiya Sophia

About the Author

Aletheia Sophia (also published under the name of Anaiya Sophia) is a Châtelaine, Living Grail and Author/Whisperer of Heart Opening Wisdom. She once taught workshops throughout the world and was best known for the creation of Sacred Body Awakening. Now, you will always find her at home in the French Pyrenees where she has taken on an almighty project – the restoration of an old Catholic summer house into an educational wisdom hub, temple, animal sanctuary and place of grace.

Known for showing up as a trailblazing resource of unapologetic truth and transparent courage, her heart is both fierce and tender.  She carries an oral message that stirs the remembrance of a continuous lineage with the Feminine Principle that throughout the centuries has preserved its spiritual dignity, without the need for permission or recognition from any other source.

Her books include:

  • Open your Heart with Kundalini Yoga (Harper Collins, 2002)
  • Mini Size Me (Lulu, 2005)
  • Pilgrimage of Love (Lulu, 2010)
  • Womb Wisdom (Inner Traditions, 2011)
  • Sacred Sexual Union (Inner Traditions, 2013)
  • The Rose Knight. Part I: Sophia (Lulu, 2014)
  • Sacred Relationships (Inner Traditions, 2015)
  • Fierce Feminine Rising (Inner Traditions, 2020)
  • The Grail King. Part II: Logos (Lulu, 2022)

Aletheia lives in the Cathar region of Southern France with her beloved husband Pete Wilson. Together they run Les Contes, a bed-and-breakfast at the base of Montsegur where individuals, families and large groups can come and stay.  Les Contes is a truly extraordinary place, with a bountiful healing presence.

Aletheia is able to conduct Baptism, Marriage, Divorce and Death Ceremonies as there is a Chapel and Spring on-site.