What you will need:

Sheets of A4 Paper or your Journal and a pen.

At the top of each page write down the name of your ex-partners, placing one name at the top of each page.

We are simply going to stick to the facts:

  • Write down how you met
  • Write down how long you were together
  • Write down how you treated one another
  • Was love driving you?
  • Were your morals and values in place?
  • Did you compromise yourself?
  • What made you feel uncomfortable when you were together?
  • Did you make love or have sex?
  • Did you tell the truth to one another
  • Did you feel that he/she was telling the truth with you?
  • Did you progress in intimacy?
  • Did you feel equal to him/her?
  • Did you manipulate to protect yourself from getting hurt?
  • Did you value God, Love, Growth and Intimacy?


When you begin to emotionally connect with the reality of the relationships that you experienced – how does this leave you feeling?

If Love was not driving you, what was?

When I did this exercise, it wasn’t comfortable as I began to feel into all the layers of error within me.   What I realized was that only when we are really honest with ourselves, can we be honest with one another.  We are not loving another person UNLESS we are 100% truthful with them.  And that is the same in reflection.  People are NOT loving you, unless they are 100% truthful with you.

When we become adults we often become desensitized to how we really feel when we realize that the other has told us a lie. We may make excuses for them, or we explode in anger.  Where we really need to go is “In”, to feel that sadness, to feel the feeling that we are unloved.  We know in our souls that there is no love in the lie.  One day we will have to face that and grieve.

This is the absolute same for us.  We have to feel the emptiness of love within our own lies. Stripping away every reason and justification ‘why’ we lied or comprised. Be innocent with your feelings…. Connect with God in an emotional way, soul to soul, and begin to pull back the layers of illusion.  Feel the love of your Creator as you gently move through this process.  We can’t do this without God’s love for us.

Gently, gently move your soul towards God’s, and feel the errors we have made about love, loosely dislodge from within us, and be released through our tears.

Supporting your sensitivity and innocence as you journey back home to the arms of God.





Anaiya Sophia

About the Author

Aletheia Sophia (also published under the name of Anaiya Sophia) is a Châtelaine, Living Grail and Author/Whisperer of Heart Opening Wisdom. She once taught workshops throughout the world and was best known for the creation of Sacred Body Awakening. Now, you will always find her at home in the French Pyrenees where she has taken on an almighty project – the restoration of an old Catholic summer house into an educational wisdom hub, temple, animal sanctuary and place of grace.

Known for showing up as a trailblazing resource of unapologetic truth and transparent courage, her heart is both fierce and tender.  She carries an oral message that stirs the remembrance of a continuous lineage with the Feminine Principle that throughout the centuries has preserved its spiritual dignity, without the need for permission or recognition from any other source.

Her books include:

  • Open your Heart with Kundalini Yoga (Harper Collins, 2002)
  • Mini Size Me (Lulu, 2005)
  • Pilgrimage of Love (Lulu, 2010)
  • Womb Wisdom (Inner Traditions, 2011)
  • Sacred Sexual Union (Inner Traditions, 2013)
  • The Rose Knight. Part I: Sophia (Lulu, 2014)
  • Sacred Relationships (Inner Traditions, 2015)
  • Fierce Feminine Rising (Inner Traditions, 2020)
  • The Grail King. Part II: Logos (Lulu, 2022)

Aletheia lives in the Cathar region of Southern France with her beloved husband Pete Wilson. Together they run Les Contes, a bed-and-breakfast at the base of Montsegur where individuals, families and large groups can come and stay.  Les Contes is a truly extraordinary place, with a bountiful healing presence.

Aletheia is able to conduct Baptism, Marriage, Divorce and Death Ceremonies as there is a Chapel and Spring on-site.