The Mystery of Menopause, (we so have to get this)


The Mystery of Menopause, (we so have to get this)

Dearest Women in the transitory throws of peri/menopause...

Again - some pearls of wisdom from a fellow swan surrendered to the current that is taking us.
Finally, after battling, withdrawing and crying, I think, I hope, and I certainly pray - that I have accepted how this phase is a journey from the 'experience' of love - to the wisdom of love. Our bodies are relaxing, drawing us down and into the flesh. An inner world of immense contentment, abundance and beingness, if only we stop fighting the process.

We are not so occupied by getting a man, keeping a man, being desirable and playing the game. We have side-stepped the programme, the gender conditioning that keeps us up in our heads - fretting over love and romance. I have so been that person... ask any friend of mine. I am not that person anymore. I have dropped down into my changing body - and I have found incredible generosity.

All the experiences we have ever gleaned from love, are now to be gathered, ripened and matured. All the sexual, heartfelt intimacies are kindled (not in a melancholic way, more of a 'glint in the eye' way) and added to the fire of alchemy. For now, we are to release those memories, those longings and experiences to illuminate all of our cells. And, if we get really, really quiet, we will realise that indeed the whole body is unanimously throbbing with light.

For our monthly cycle is now internal. Our blood has become - Light!

This is the purpose of menopause - bringing home the harvest! We become the living example of a young wine, that has reached its mid-age, and is now utterly delicious! We are outrageously generous with love. Madly in love with one another. Proper love. The kind that 'births new ideas, news states of being, new worlds'... yeah, that kind of love.

BUT - we will not gain access to this - if we fight the process.

Instead, many, if not all of us (I was) will get horrendously caught up our modern, competitive angst about losing our looks, putting on extra pounds, not being desired, competing and comparing with other women and 'it's all downhill from here'.....

That dearest woman is a bitter and ghastly wine, the wine given to us at a cheap banquet. Toss that wine aside, for there is more! Enter the process, open your arms and lay back, fully trusting that you will float upon the tide of change. Cup your wine goblet in both hands and drink the lifeblood we no longer bleed (poetically speaking, not literal) to gain access into the illumination that is waiting for us to take our throne. The light of experience, the light of our virtues, our moral compass, our laughter and wildness - is beckoning us home. Toss over your shoulder the worries of getting older, and what you look like, and how you feel.

We must get out of our head. These fears of getting old, 'spoil' the wine my beloved one. Cast aside the concerns of the youth, sink gracefully into your cells, see for yourself the quiet hum of New Life. Gather with others like us, have this conversation, dare to share ALL of it.

Some days I say to myself ' there is too much energy inside of me'... 'too much life...'

'Nonsense,' says the flesh 'now be still, and love'...


  • Sto vivendo questo momento
    Non è facile lasciare il “potere” della giovinezza della bellezza, ma finalmente sento la mia forza
    sono sempre più presente con me stessa e sto vivendo momenti così intensi con il compagno di questa vita, spesso diciamo che finalmente viviamo l’esperienza del fidanzamento, finalmente ci conosciamo, questo sta accadendo anche con le persone per me importanti come le figlie
    Dopo avere superato il “guado” (sofferenza della perdita) nuova luce arriva
    Buon viaggio a tutte

    Translated from Italian

    I am living in this moment

    It is not easy to leave the "power" of the youth of beauty, but I finally feel my strength

    I am more and more present with myself and I am experiencing such intense moments with my partner in this life, we often say that we are finally living the experience of the engagement, we finally know each other, this is also happening with people who are important to me such as daughters

    After passing the "ford" (suffering of loss) new light comes

    Have a good trip to all of you

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Anaiya Sophia

About the Author

Anaiya Sophia is a Châtelaine, Living Grail and Author/Whisperer of Heart Opening Wisdom. She once taught workshops throughout the world and was best known for the creation of Sacred Body Awakening. Now, you will always find her at home in the French Pyrenees where she has taken on an almighty project – the restoration of an old Catholic summer house into an educational wisdom hub, temple, animal sanctuary and place of grace.
Known for showing up as a trailblazing resource of unapologetic truth and transparent courage, her heart is both fierce and tender.  She carries an oral message that stirs the remembrance of a continuous lineage with the Feminine Principle that throughout the centuries has preserved its spiritual dignity, without the need for permission or recognition from any other source.

Her books include:

  • Open your Heart with Kundalini Yoga (Harper Collins, 2002)
  • Mini Size Me (Lulu, 2005)
  • Pilgrimage of Love (Lulu, 2010)
  • Womb Wisdom (Inner Traditions, 2011)
  • Sacred Sexual Union (Inner Traditions, 2013)
  • The Rose Knight. Part I: Sophia's Story (Lulu, 2014)
  • Sacred Relationships (Inner Traditions, 2015)
  • Fierce Feminine Rising (Inner Traditions, 2020)
  • The Grail King. Part II: Logos' Story (Lulu, 2022)

Anaiya lives in the Cathar region of Southern France with her beloved husband Pete Wilson. Together they run Les Contes, a B & B at the base of Montsegur where individuals, families and large groups can come and stay.  Les Contes is a truly extraordinary place, with a bountiful healing presence.
Anaiya is able to conduct Baptism, Marriage, Divorce and Death Ceremonies as there is a Chapel and Spring on-site.


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